Monday, July 14, 2008

One nite stand

When you have an one nite stand with someone else, will you call him/her back the day after that? if you will, does it mean you like him? if you wont, does it mean he/her is just soso to you?

因為實習醫生有討論到這個話題,最近朋友也發生了類似的事情,自己覺得蠻有趣的,故就將這個話題放到自己的blog上,一夜情會發生,通常是雙方對彼此的身體有興趣,但是否有機會進一步發展,則要看當時雙方對彼此的認定為何?但通常我覺得說掰掰的機率的大點,首先,會去找一夜情的人,都會有先入為主的觀念認為他們不是很專情,當然也就不會放太多的心思的在對方身上,如果當下滿足了彼此肉體的需求,那就夠了,畢竟,他們一定不會是個約會選項,大家不是都說歡場無真愛嗎?的確,床,不也是歡場之一嗎?

兩個人發生一夜情,如果隔天對方沒有打電話過來,對方鐵定是將自己定位成發洩對象,應該是沒有喜歡的成份。如果喜歡,應該當下就會問彼此,是否有機會進一不,是否要再見面等等的話題,不然,大多時候,我們應該部會再打給對方,也不期待接到對方的電話,是吧?

自己因為看多了也經歷多了,所以對一夜情的態度從反對到接受,但也因為這樣,對愛情也就會越來越不相信,經營一段感情,的確是很花時間,如果可以沒有負擔,沒有責任,在最輕鬆的狀態下認識一個人,又可以先體驗對方的親密,感覺有點像入學測驗,這樣不也挺好的?畢竟,男生,there is nothing to lose...

20 comments:

Anonymous said...

我跟你一様對一夜情的態度是由最初的反感到現在是能接受,可能社會每天都在改變吧。但我會問自己,如當真的要發生在我自己身上時,自己真的會做嗎?.....可能自己思想比較守舊(保守)也跟不上社會的進步,接受歸接受,最終應該不會發生在我的身上吧!你會嗎?

Max said...

我會吧。但前提要對方是自己喜歡的樣子。做愛,畢竟要有一點點愛,才做的下去。

Anonymous said...

哈哈哈,也對!必須要自己喜歡的樣子呀!

Faith Is Worth Having said...
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Faith Is Worth Having said...

nothing to lose?

what about the increase in the probability of getting some kind of STD?

http://news.yam.com/cna/healthy/200807/20080715588678.html

with that said........
ONS is ok, as long as you are being safe but then again it depends on what you do and who you ONS with.

Max said...

haha..

play safe? how do u define it? if it just happened in gym or swimming pool, how to play safe? sometimes, ons is good becuz of its excitement. ha

Faith Is Worth Having said...

that's why I said

"but then again it depends on what you do....."

HP said...

STD reminds me of a STD man...

Anonymous said...

seems it's a good topic...hahaha

Anonymous said...

It's very difficult to say coz I never experienced a one night stand with someone. I spent a night only with someone I really liked or loved. Ekk

Anonymous said...

but I can imagine myself fall in love with a one-night-stand guy. If u like the guy and the guy likes u, why not?

Maybe the fact u want to give him a call again, it doesn't mean u love or like him, it could be only sex. Hot sex you had with him and u want to have it again!

Ekk

Max said...
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Max said...

Ekk,
i think if i call someone back after ons, i want to hv him more than hv sex...but i agree your point.

how can u reply me without understanding my chinese saying....ha

Unknown said...

I just want to leave a GENERAL comment on one-night-stand stuff, as a friend.

As I said, calling a O-N-S guy the following day (or even a few days later, it doesn't matter) could be only sex or love. But if it's love, why not? If the guy gives u love in return, you win the game!!!

Sex or love stuffs are all the same. All the situations are always similar, my dear Max.

Ekk

:: 子源 :: said...

我不覺得是nothing to lose

就算是單身
至少我認爲應該對下一個伴侶負責任
現在我無拘無束可以亂來
不代表我以後不會因此而後悔
男生肉體上雖然沒損失
遇到好的伴侶后
心靈上也會自責

寧缺勿濫比較好

小小意見,希望別介意

Max said...

"男生肉體上雖然沒損失
遇到好的伴侶后
心靈上也會自責"

心靈上會自責嗎?我不會耶。哈哈

:: 子源 :: said...

你不會自責
可能還沒遇上一個好得讓你覺得自責的人?
或者還是沒遇上一個你真正很愛很愛的人?

對不起如果讓你感到冒犯了

Max said...

我是覺得兩者不衝突啦,不過,我認為你能這樣想很好,畢竟,對自己的身體負責,也為你的未來伴侶著想,想必你一定是個有責任心的好男人。 Good!

Mike Wong said...

人始終有心理、生理的需要,滿足彼此的渴求,又何須自責。

「自己因為看多了也經歷多了,所以對一夜情的態度從反對到接受,但也因為這樣,對愛情也就會越來越不相信」

你也不用因而不相信愛情,會去找一夜情的人,不見得就是對伴侶感情不専一,反而我覺得那只是解決慾望的一個渠道,正因為重視另一半,才會瞞着對方, 否則早早分手,不再糾纒。

Max said...

"人始終有心理、生理的需要,滿足彼此的渴求,又何須自責。"

的確,如果大家都成年了,選擇也是自己所做的,何須自責?!